We began our evening reading a letter from a beloved Seekers’ attender who couldn’t be physically present with us.  It was a beautiful, grace-filled letter, one that dropped us all, instantly, into the joy and love….. and the pain and fear….. of life at its essence.

Loving the madness and Full catastrophe living are mantras that are about letting go of the myth of control and an either/or mindset, and instead, embracing the messiness of life.   Living life on life’s terms does not mean we do not experience dark times, or pain, or difficult emotions, especially when our children, or others we love dearly, are suffering.  It does seem to ask that we let go of the idea that life is all rainbows and flowers.  Living fully includes both beauty and problems.  How can we access spiritual strength?  How can we recognize opportunities for Openings into grace-filled moments?  What does it mean, and what do we need, in order to thrivein our daily lives?

We know that worrying is not helpful.  Some of us do better than others with not getting caught in this loop.  Many of us know we would feel much better if we just knew that, in the end, we – or loved ones — would “make it through.”  It is good to have individuals in our lives that have already been through what we’re going through – people who can assure us it gets better.  It also feels incredibly gratifying when we can be helpful to others.  It is good to feel we are needed.  

Watching people survive and thrive is a way of seeing that of God in every one.  We know people who have, or have been through, many significant life challenges and burdens but who still never ask “why me.” We wonder how they are able to be in such a peaceful existence.  We are inspired by the grace of those who have many difficulties and yet live with an ease and acceptance that is extraordinary.

Reaching for that which gives us joy seems essential.  Exercise, meditation, and mindful-living are things we tend to do better with other people. We are deeply grateful for individuals, circles, and groups of people where we can be honest about the joys and the messiness of life.  Times in these circles when we can actually hear ourselves speaking something aloud for the first time are very special gifts.

As I write this, I am reminded of one of my favorite quotes which I think encapsulates much of what was felt at the end of our evening: “If someone believes with me in the amazement of grace, prays with me, and reminds me of God’s tenderness, I live more thoroughly and bravely in sacred time.” – Friends Journal, 11/94

Our next Seekers Group gathering will be on Monday, March 14, 2016 at 7pm in the Community House.  All are welcome.

Gretchen Baker-Smith